Goodbye Condoms, Hello MYMO Natural Spermicide?
Let’s start with what nobody wants to admit: People are going to have casual sex regardless.
So, I’m not here to shame you. I’m here to keep it grown because “Netflix and chill” vibes do not always end like a Cinderella fairy tale. Sometimes it ends like court papers, co-parenting with somebody you don’t even like, postpartum stress with no support, or an “oops” pregnancy that changes your whole timeline.
Sex is an energy exchange - FULL STOP.
And I don’t mean that in a cute quote way. I mean you’re mixing bodies, breath, nervous systems, and intention. So ideally, we shouldn’t lay with people with trash energy, trash habits, trash hygiene, trash diets, and trash discipline. But we don’t live in a world where alignment is everybody’s priority.
So here’s the middle ground: Have standards. And be safe with your vices.
What is MYMO?
MYMO is described on The Farusha Brand site as a herbal infusion created for skin needs (“your Tylenol for skin”) made with 100% organic herbs and listed ingredients that include (but aren’t limited to) rosemary, neem seeds, oregano, calendula, tea tree, and sarsaparilla. The Farusha Brand
It’s marketed as multi-use, including:
“Natural spermicide” (claims to “kill sperm cells on contact,” with spermicidal properties that “last up to 6 hours,” with directions to apply to the penis).
Intimacy/pleasure oil (marketed as enhancing pleasure and described as a “safe condom substitute when used properly (OILY)”).
Skin uses (acne, dark spots, hydration, and other skin-related claims).
A closing reminder on the page: “pregnancy preventor, not a pregnancy eliminator.”
That’s the product framing. Now let’s talk real-life decision-making.
My personal opinion: condoms are TRASHHH.
I said what I said.
A lot of condoms come with extra “weird-ish” that some bodies do not tolerate well (lubes, coatings, fragrances, latex sensitivity, irritation triggers). And once you’ve experienced sex that’s actually connected and intentional, you start questioning why “standard issue” intimacy is so normalized. So, if you’re having casual sex with someone whose status you don’t know (or you’re not truly monogamous and tested), condoms are not just “birth control.” They’re risk management. Then again… so is remaining abstinent.
So what is MYMO best for, realistically?
MYMO as an intimacy + body oil (the use case that makes the most sense)
If your body tolerates the botanicals, MYMO may function well for:
sensual massage and intimacy (external use)
moisturizing support where dryness and friction are an issue
skin care experimentation (with common sense)
But anything used around genital tissue should be approached with respect:
Patch test first (botanicals like tea tree and neem can irritate some people).
Stop if burning/itching/swelling shows up.
If you’re prone to BV/yeast symptoms, proceed cautiously and don’t “power through” irritation.
About the “condom substitute” idea
If someone is saying “I want condom-free sex,” my question is always: condom-free with what safety plan?
The grown version of “condom-free” usually involves:
both partners testing (and being honest)
real monogamy agreements (not vibes)
a pregnancy plan you can live with if prevention fails
The spiritual piece (because it matters)
The MYMO page emphasizes self-care, self-touch, and learning how to love on yourself first. I agree with the principle: If you don’t know how to love on yourself, it can be hard to expect someone else to love you correctly. Masturbation, self-massage, intentional self-pleasure- those can be practices of reconnection and confidence when done from a grounded place, not a performative one.
Final word
If you want to explore MYMO, explore it with clarity:
Don’t confuse “plant-based” with “guarantee.”
Don’t confuse “condom-free” with “consequence-free.”
And don’t let temporary pleasure become permanent stress.
Be safe with your vices. Protect your womb. Protect your peace.